I decided we needed a fresh prospective this week so I called in some help from my best friend and fellow DIY Amateur Rider, Kaity Arthur. She thoughtfully wrote this wonderful blog about the "team" behind the scenes of a showman.
“It Takes a Team”
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| Manny. Lori, Faith and I |
A team is generally thought of as a group of players forming one side in
a competitive game or sport. I like to think of the word team as more of a
verb; coming together as a team to achieve a common goal. To me, horse showing is all about goals. Though showing horses can be considered a very individual sport, there is still a team. This
is my ‘team’ that I have put together in my life that helps me reach my goals
when it comes to showing my horse.
I’m going to start with my Dad. Often people don’t know what my Dad even
looks like because he rarely comes to shows.
I have never felt unsupported by him however because he is doing a very
important job while my Mom and I are away at the shows all summer: He takes care of EVERYTHING at home! We have
2 other horses that don’t travel with us to the shows that need care, as well
as their 2 dogs that don’t tag along. He tends to the garden, waters my Mom’s
flowers, mows the grass etc. Although he doesn't come with, he is always in
touch. He wants to know what fairgrounds we are going to, when we arrive and is
always a ringing text in – “how is the show going?” He doesn't understand much
of the lingo, drama, placings, points and all that, but he is such a great
support system at home. The most
important thing that he does though is give my Mom and I the final hug and kiss
as we pull out of that driveway with the trailer and he is the first one to hug
and kiss us when we get home, knowing that every moment is precious with us.
Along with my Dad, I have some other very important family members that
are a part of my winning ‘team’. My
Grandma Dottie and my Great Aunt Ann are huge players as well. Until she
retired, my Grandma helped support all of my horse shows. She loved helping out
and would help me with my entry fees before I had a job to pay for my own.
Mowing lawns and dusting shelves sure didn't equal what she helped me with, but
I did what I could to help re pay her.
My Great Aunt Ann is actually who got my Mom into showing. When she
retired from the Army and moved to Midland she built the barn and indoor arena
where I have always kept my horses. Only a few miles down the road from my
parent’s house, I have practically grown up in this barn. Because of her, I
always have a safe place and nice indoor to ride my horse in year round.
The next couple members of my ‘team’ are behind the scenes type guys.
Fred Pickering is our one and only diesel mechanic. Our 1999 Ford truck has
250,000+ miles on it, so to say that we drive a lot, would be an
understatement. Fred always gives our truck a great once over before we head to
a big show, and is always just a phone call away with questions on the strange
noises we hear while driving down the road. We also love our local RV guy!
Anything that needs a tune up or fixed on our horse trailer, Brian Harvey is
right around the corner. We can drop the trailer off and have it fixed and
ready to pick up in just a matter of hours. These men are life savers,
literally!
Manny’s side of the team is also important. We have used the same farrier
for 20 years now and he was actually the one who found my very first kid horse
for me when I was 6 years old. Ron
Sullivan knows our horses inside and out and even though he is a big time
barrel racer, he has learned how we want pleasure horses to move, just so he
can help trim and shoe our horses to maximize their potential. There is never a
dull moment with him and our appointments are filled with sarcasm, poking fun
of one another and hearing the new nick names he has for Manny, but his
favorite is always “Princess.”
Through all the stress and anxiety that horse shows can cause, there is
always one member of my team that can take it all away… our dogs. Bailey the
German shepherd traveled with us for 10 years of showing across the country.
Known as the dog with the pink Frisbee, everyone at the shows loved Bailey. Two
years ago we made the tough decision to let her cross the Rainbow Bridge, and
horse shows (and win pictures) haven’t been the same without her. Trying to
fill her big doggie paw prints, however, is my 3 year old Weimeraner named
Faith. Faith is great support in the
form of a lick to the face or a warm body to sit next to while waiting for
showmanship! Our back seat is never lacking a dog, because they are such
important parts of our summers showing horses!
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| The famous Bailey and her Frisbee |
Of course, the other HUGELY important member of my team is Manny himself.
I could write for days about this horse. I have always said he has the
personality of a Golden Retriever crossed with a Giraffe. He makes shows SO
much fun and relaxing. He is my best friend and I know him inside and out. He
works tirelessly at shows, showing up to 15 classes a day, going well past his
supper, but you would never know that because of his great attitude. He
honestly LIVES for horse shows, leaping into the trailer, ready for any amount
of miles/states/hours to get there. He is my once in a lifetime horse and I
love him so much it is crazy!
Some other fundamental members of my team would include Brandy Smith and
the Smith family. Brandy wears many hats on my team, including my fashion
consultant, shoulder to cry on, hardest high fiver after a big win, huge competitor and best friend! At any
moment Brandy will lend me anything
big or small! From her favorite Golden West saddle pad at World Show, to a
different colored ribbon for my hair. As much as my Mom and I pride ourselves
on being a “do it yourself” type team, anytime I need a refresher or Manny
needs a tune up, I can always look to Mark Smith. His easy going attitude and
soft hands make him the best coach around! Laura is a wonderful second show mom who always makes sure we are at the right early and dressed to impress AND know our patterns.
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| My best friend |
The final member of my team could be considered my team captain –my Mom,
Lori. I don’t think she knew what she was getting herself into when she put me
on that horse in front of her for the very first time. What a wonderful 20+
years of showing horses with her it has been.
We are SO close it is actually kind of scary sometimes! We joke and say
that we share the same brain, but I swear we do. With an average of 15-20 shows a summer,
close to 300 miles a show – it is safe to say we have spent a fair amount of
time together in the truck! On Sunday nights she would drive through the night
to get me home safe and let me sleep the whole way because I had school the
next day. She is my best friend, my rock
and the best show Mom anyone could ever ask for! (Seriously, ask anyone we show
with, she is known as the best!)
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| Momma Lori is the best! |
So there you have it! That is my roster for my ‘team!’ Going to horse
shows and doing well just cannot be done by one person, it takes a bunch! Some
good support behind the scenes and right beside you is important to being
successful in the show ring! I am already filling my calendars with my shows
for next year. I hope my team is ready for it!
“It isn’t about how many ribbons
you win or how much money you make. Life’s about doing something you love and never giving up.” – Unknown.
Thank you Kaity for this wonderful post. Who is on your team? Post in the comments!
Have a great, horse-filled weekend :)
~Brandy
